Hey, !
The raving fan at a football game.
The person who always speaks up in the meeting, sharing their opinions and going first.
The showoff who's the center of attention wherever they go.
We often think that these people are the confident ones. That confidence is, If not in your face, then certainly loud and hard to ignore.
But is it?
Are those people really confident, or are they masking their insecurities with a false sense of bravado? A fake-it-till-you-make-it attitude. Or a hope that no one looks beneath the surface to see what's REALLY there.
We can't know what's in anyone's heart and mind, and we certainly can't judge them on outward appearances alone.
But lately, it seems like the loudest people in the cultural conversations are the ones who HAVE to prove their point.
The keyboard warriors who MUST win people over to their point of view.
The bullies who name-call and label people who have differing opinions.
There's a LOT of screaming going on these days, and precious little listening, love, or empathy.
I propose an alternative.
That true confidence can be quiet.
Being so sure of your position, your beliefs, your WORTH that you don't need other people's approval or agreement.
You don't have to fight to prove your point.
Others can disagree, and it's no skin off your back.
Sure, you may engage in civil conversations about a topic. (There's PRECIOUS little of that these days.) Or you may scroll on by.
Either way, you're not threatened by other people's opinions, and you don't need their approval in the form of agreement with your beliefs.
You may seek to persuade, but your WORTH doesn't depend on it. Your happiness. Your identity.
Confidence can be quiet.
What do you think?
I usually ask you to reply and let me know your thoughts.
But today, I want you to keep them to yourself. Don't reply. Because your worth doesn't depend on other people agreeing with you. Nor does mine.
Today, be quietly confident.
Be secure.
Be still.
