"No one will buy me a cake!"
A woman in a Facebook group for people with food allergies wrote 2 long paragraphs about how none of her family members cared enough to buy her a birthday cake that was safe for her to eat.They'd bought her grocery store cakes in the past, but she can't eat them. So, instead of trying to find an allergy-safe bakery, her family gave
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Her birthday was the following week, and she was sad because no one would buy her a cake.
Everyone deserves to eat safely, free from fear of anaphylaxis or other allergic reactions. And we all want to feel loved and appreciated - especially on birthdays.
But what struck me about the post was the woman's seeming helplessness. As if she wasn't a grown-ass woman with her own money who could buy her own cake. Or make it herself.
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Instead of taking her happiness into her own hands, she was miserable waiting on other people to make her happy.
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But guess what? That's not their job.
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You, , are responsible for your own happiness.
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And when you take responsibility for that, you get more confident.
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I hear versions of that woman's story all the time:
- "I love flowers but my spouse/partner/housekeeper never buys them for me."
- "I want to try this new restaurant, but I don't have anyone to go with."
- "I'd love to visit Greece, but I don't want to travel alone."
You don't have to wait on other people to fulfill you.
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Buy yourself the flowers.
Make your own cake.
Go to the restaurant, movie, or exotic island by yourself.
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YOU are worth it. Not ONLY if the experience can be shared. Not ONLY if someone else does it or buys it for you.
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What have you been putting off because you're waiting on someone else to do it for you?
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Just do it.
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You don't need to wait on other people to validate you.
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You don't need their approval or participation.
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Do it for you.
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Because you're worth it.
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