"How are you?"
How often are you asked that
question?
Some people want to know the honest answer. Those people are true friends.
Others only ask it as superficial small talk, the required script of day-to-day life. They expect you to say, "Fine" and move along.
One such person asked me that recently. I hate being fake on a GOOD day. But I'd been really struggling for a few weeks, and my capacity for B.S. was pretty much at zero.
So I said, "It's been a rough week."
Her response? A dismissive laugh
and "Cheer up! It could always be worse!"
Yes, it could. But it was BAD for me in that moment, and I needed support, not pithy platitudes.
It was the small-talk equivalent of "Good vibes only!"
I hate it when people say that.
Sure, we all do better when we focus on what's going well. I'm the poster child for finding SOMETHING to be grateful for, no matter what hardship I'm experiencing.
But the notion of "Good vibes only" is another form of toxic positivity. A
dismissive mindset that minimizes very real hurt, frustration, and other "negative" feelings.
It's a lie that leads to repression, shame, and rebound emotions.
You can only ignore the hurt for so long before it comes roaring back with a vengeance, often directed against people
who had nothing to do with it.
Family. Clients. Yourself.
That's where my approach as a self-worth coach differs from most other coaches. When you work with me one on one, we make room for those negative emotions. So you can learn from them, reframe them, release them. So
they don't stay buried, just waiting for an inconvenient and inappropriate time to resurface.
This is just one of the steps we take to love and trust yourself again so you can radiate confidence, more impact, peace, and fulfillment, and set the world on fire in pursuit of your purpose.
