When it comes to confidence, I'm often asked, "Which comes first? Do I work on my mindset, or do I take action first, and the confidence follows?"

It's the classic chicken/egg dilemma.

The answer is simple: do both. They flow into each other. Improving your mindset to feel confident leads to more action, and more aligned action leads to greater confidence.

But here's where many people get it wrong:

1. They base their confidence on the results of their actions. So if they get a less-than-ideal outcome, their confidence dips.
2. They try "fake it till you make it," which actually TANKS your confidence because you're not being yourself. The fear of being "found out" makes your more insecure.

I recently came across this video I did a while back as part of my weekly Facebook Live series called Worthy Wednesday.

It talks about the difference between Fake it Till You Make It and a related but much more effective strategy, Act As If.

Here are 2 of my favorite quotes from the video:

1. "There's a difference between putting out the energy of 'fake' and 'fraud,' and leaning into your growth edge."
2. "The behavior can look the same, but what's different is the intention behind it and the energy you're putting out into the world."

Watch the full video here. It's just 11 minutes long, and packed with goodness.