Many people think that unbridled positivity and ONLY seeing the good is the key to more confidence.
But that can actually
backfire.
In fact, if you want to be more confident, you've gotta learn to honestly critique yourself.
I made this cake for my daughter's 2nd
birthday. It's my favorite cake I've ever done - in terms of creativity, technique, and detail. I abso-freakin-lutely love it.
AND... I knew from the moment I finished the fish, before any of the decorations were placed, what I would do differently if I ever made it again.
A different cake pan would have given the fish better
proportions. I could have used a template for a better eye shape. I'd have made a taller dorsal fin.
I can love this cake AND see areas for improvement.
You can love YOURSELF and see areas for improvement, too.
ONLY seeing the positive, trying to convince yourself you're perfect, is disingenuous. It's arrogance. It's false hype that makes Imposter Syndrome even worse. (And tanks your confidence.)
Honestly critiquing yourself isn't the same as being
critical.
It's a key to growth.
It's a foundation for authentic confidence that declares "I am
worthy. I am enough, flaws and all. And I love myself enough to become an even better me."
